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The Warm Apple Pie Project

18 Jun

Last night I had such a great conversation with Gary Jones, @financialrunner, on our need for #community.  We need more of it, and in abundance.  People are craving the #social interactions that it brings as never before. Our physical, spiritual, and emotional health are suffering because of the disconnect we now experience.  Yet, it’s a known fact that those who live in small communities with interdependent relationships have greater health & well-being!

An example of this disconnect is Depression.  Have you ever wondered why it’s so predominant today?  Believe it or not, not everyone has a loving spouse, family or friends to lean on when their dealing with hard thoughts or tough issues.  Many people have to deal with their own thoughts and problems on their own… and that “loneliness” can lead to some serious mental health issues.  But there is hope… there’s actually an old saying that when facing an issue, “once the Village knows about it, it isn’t a problem anymore”.

Do you why?  

Because when we genuinely unburden ourselves to the people who care about us and love us, our problem is no longer faced alone.  There is now a network of able bodied citizens who step up to do whatever is necessary in helping us cope emotionally and mentally, they may cook us meals and clean our home, they may take us out for coffee, and they may help us come up with tools to manage our problems. Unfortunately, in North America, this type of interdependence is unheard of.

We instead work 12-16 hour days, trying to keep up with the Joneses, instead of being our authentic selves.  We have no time to share our authenticity with others.  We’re too busy wearing masks, we have mass amounts responsibilities, places to be, money to spend, and technology to distract us from true connections.

We are even hesitant to share information with those closest to us because society teaches us that no one is trustworthy enough, no one can ever #LOVE US enough or accept us for who we TRULY are, and that gossip is too easily created because #integrity is non-existent.

Is this the world you want to live in?  I DON’T! 

This isn’t the version of planet earth that I signed up for, nor is it the type of #community setting that I want to live in or raise my children in.

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I’m going to put this challenge out to you today because I’d like to start something…

I’m inviting you to BE RADICAL.

THE CHALLENGE:  We all know that food is the way to almost anyone’s heart.  Your Challenge should you wish to accept it, is to connect with someone, anyone, by baking them a Warm Apple Pie.  You can bake Warm Apple Pie cookies, Muffins, Quiches, Loaves, or Bars.. get CREATIVE!  Anything that embodies that warm wonderful feeling of coming home is what it’s all about, and then delivering the baked goods with a note to someone that let’s them know who you are and that you care.  Do it as often or as little as you want.  Take photos of your journey, and tag it to your Instagram, Twitter or Facebook under #TheWarmApplePieProject..

Move On – Forget the Past, Live for the Future

3 Nov

A friend of mine on Facebook today posted one of the most powerful messages I’ve read in the longest time.  I make no secret of being the philosopher, visionary, dreamer, and charismatic writer when it comes to all things life.. however, this just blew anything I could ever hope to write straight out of the water.  The man in question who orchestrated this thought provoking message, Tyler Perry.  As I cannot add to his post, I will simply relay it below in his words, and hope that it touches your heart as it has mine.

“Here’s a thought (I DON’T WANT YOU TO DO THIS, JUST THINK ABOUT IT). Get into the front seat of your car, then turn your body around. Knees on the front seat with your back on the steering wheel, your face looking toward the trunk. Stay in that position and try to drive the car forward. It’s impossible, right? If by some miracle you do manage to go forward I guarantee you won’t get very far. If the car represents our lives then the way we are sitting in the driver’s seat represents the way we approach it. It’s really hard to move on when you’re looking the wrong way. There is nothing wrong with the car… what is wrong is the position some of us are sitting in, meaning there is nothing wrong with your life, and you’re just facing the wrong direction. There are many things that can cause you to be out of alignment with life, but instead of focusing on the many, I’d like to talk about one thing in particular… And that is GUILT.

I was talking to a friend of mine yesterday. He was telling me about all the guilt that he feels. Guilt that his marriage fell apart. Guilt that he doesn’t get to see his kids very often. Guilt that he’s not in a financial position to do more for them. Guilt over the mistakes he’s made in his past. Guilt over lots of money that he wasted doing the wrong things. So much guilt about everything.

I had to stop him and remind him of a few things. What I know about guilt is this: guilt is a tool that is used to destroy you. We all make mistakes. We all have fallen short. We have all disappointed someone, including ourselves at some point. Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do about it. It’s done. Instead of beating yourself up about it, how about putting that same energy into making sure that it doesn’t happen again and healing anyone who may have been hurt by it?

You can’t let guilt win or consume you. You can’t let it take over your thoughts because if you do, you will start a downward spiral. It’s like this… guilt is the trick that makes you feel that you’re unworthy, and if you feel that you’re unworthy then you will feel that you don’t deserve any good thing to happen to you. And so, as a man thinks so is he. If you think you don’t deserve good things you will never have good things. And when things are falling apart you will feel guilty that they are falling apart. Do you see the cycle? There is no winning here. In order to be free and be lifted you must let go of the guilt or it will keep you bound.

How do you do that? Well, it’s a process, but you start by asking forgiveness of whomever you hurt, ask forgiveness of God, and most of all ask forgiveness of yourself. Although God forgives us most easily, we sometimes can’t forgive ourselves. You can’t get to great things ahead if you’re always looking behind you. It’s like trying to drive your car in that awkward position.”

Light and Love,
Jessica

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