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Don’t talk about it. Be about it.

7 Mar

I’ve noticed that there is a lot of talk in this world..

Whether its about being a great person, achieving a goal, making a change, or having all these incredible ideals and values….  but REALLY, its just talk unless you do something about it.

About a month ago I found out that I have a meningioma on the frontal lobe of my brain (Google it, it would take me ages to explain it all).  And a few weeks later my husband and I were then t-boned by a crazy man who ran a stop sign….  Prior to these two events, I have been ill… Not just sick with the flu, but ill to the point that I have been unable to get myself out of bed for fear of passing out or dying.

As these events took place I started to question life…..  All this terrible sickness stuff was happening so quickly.  I was getting scared, STILL AM.  I cried a lot, STILL DO.  Consumed in anxiety, fear, WHICH I AM TRYING TO GET OVER.  I wondered why me?  why now?  I spent countless minutes talking to God about not wanting to die, and wondering about what his plan is for my life.
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AND THEN I REALIZED SOMETHING………..

In looking back at the last ten years of my life,  I really haven’t done everything in my power to walk the talk.  I’ve instead BURNT MYSELF OUT.

I tried to take on the world and left little for myself.  I’ve allowed people, places and things to rule my life, and in the end – little was/is accomplished because I haven’t taken the time to truly be present in myself, for myself and for God.

“The greatest gift you can give somebody is your own personal development. I used to say “If you will take care of me, I will take care of you.” Now I say “I will take care of me for you, if you will take care of you for me.” – Jim Rohn

This past week I made a change, and it stuck.  It goes something likes this….

It will no longer be about what others need of me, but about what I need for me to be.  I will no longer set unrealistic goals, I will not make promises I cannot keep….  I will be honest about what I can and cannot do, no ifs or maybes.  And I will not take on more than I can handle.

I will take care of myself.  I will go to bed earlier.  I will eat healthy, drink more water, and stop obsessing about little things that are really quite fickle.  I will take time to love my children and adore my husband.  I will make time to visit family and be a friend.  I will LIVE.

and, I will no longer talk about IT.

I will instead, BE ABOUT IT.

CAUSE THE TRUTH OF THE MATTER IS…………

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Move On – Forget the Past, Live for the Future

3 Nov

A friend of mine on Facebook today posted one of the most powerful messages I’ve read in the longest time.  I make no secret of being the philosopher, visionary, dreamer, and charismatic writer when it comes to all things life.. however, this just blew anything I could ever hope to write straight out of the water.  The man in question who orchestrated this thought provoking message, Tyler Perry.  As I cannot add to his post, I will simply relay it below in his words, and hope that it touches your heart as it has mine.

“Here’s a thought (I DON’T WANT YOU TO DO THIS, JUST THINK ABOUT IT). Get into the front seat of your car, then turn your body around. Knees on the front seat with your back on the steering wheel, your face looking toward the trunk. Stay in that position and try to drive the car forward. It’s impossible, right? If by some miracle you do manage to go forward I guarantee you won’t get very far. If the car represents our lives then the way we are sitting in the driver’s seat represents the way we approach it. It’s really hard to move on when you’re looking the wrong way. There is nothing wrong with the car… what is wrong is the position some of us are sitting in, meaning there is nothing wrong with your life, and you’re just facing the wrong direction. There are many things that can cause you to be out of alignment with life, but instead of focusing on the many, I’d like to talk about one thing in particular… And that is GUILT.

I was talking to a friend of mine yesterday. He was telling me about all the guilt that he feels. Guilt that his marriage fell apart. Guilt that he doesn’t get to see his kids very often. Guilt that he’s not in a financial position to do more for them. Guilt over the mistakes he’s made in his past. Guilt over lots of money that he wasted doing the wrong things. So much guilt about everything.

I had to stop him and remind him of a few things. What I know about guilt is this: guilt is a tool that is used to destroy you. We all make mistakes. We all have fallen short. We have all disappointed someone, including ourselves at some point. Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do about it. It’s done. Instead of beating yourself up about it, how about putting that same energy into making sure that it doesn’t happen again and healing anyone who may have been hurt by it?

You can’t let guilt win or consume you. You can’t let it take over your thoughts because if you do, you will start a downward spiral. It’s like this… guilt is the trick that makes you feel that you’re unworthy, and if you feel that you’re unworthy then you will feel that you don’t deserve any good thing to happen to you. And so, as a man thinks so is he. If you think you don’t deserve good things you will never have good things. And when things are falling apart you will feel guilty that they are falling apart. Do you see the cycle? There is no winning here. In order to be free and be lifted you must let go of the guilt or it will keep you bound.

How do you do that? Well, it’s a process, but you start by asking forgiveness of whomever you hurt, ask forgiveness of God, and most of all ask forgiveness of yourself. Although God forgives us most easily, we sometimes can’t forgive ourselves. You can’t get to great things ahead if you’re always looking behind you. It’s like trying to drive your car in that awkward position.”

Light and Love,
Jessica

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