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Move On – Forget the Past, Live for the Future

3 Nov

A friend of mine on Facebook today posted one of the most powerful messages I’ve read in the longest time.  I make no secret of being the philosopher, visionary, dreamer, and charismatic writer when it comes to all things life.. however, this just blew anything I could ever hope to write straight out of the water.  The man in question who orchestrated this thought provoking message, Tyler Perry.  As I cannot add to his post, I will simply relay it below in his words, and hope that it touches your heart as it has mine.

“Here’s a thought (I DON’T WANT YOU TO DO THIS, JUST THINK ABOUT IT). Get into the front seat of your car, then turn your body around. Knees on the front seat with your back on the steering wheel, your face looking toward the trunk. Stay in that position and try to drive the car forward. It’s impossible, right? If by some miracle you do manage to go forward I guarantee you won’t get very far. If the car represents our lives then the way we are sitting in the driver’s seat represents the way we approach it. It’s really hard to move on when you’re looking the wrong way. There is nothing wrong with the car… what is wrong is the position some of us are sitting in, meaning there is nothing wrong with your life, and you’re just facing the wrong direction. There are many things that can cause you to be out of alignment with life, but instead of focusing on the many, I’d like to talk about one thing in particular… And that is GUILT.

I was talking to a friend of mine yesterday. He was telling me about all the guilt that he feels. Guilt that his marriage fell apart. Guilt that he doesn’t get to see his kids very often. Guilt that he’s not in a financial position to do more for them. Guilt over the mistakes he’s made in his past. Guilt over lots of money that he wasted doing the wrong things. So much guilt about everything.

I had to stop him and remind him of a few things. What I know about guilt is this: guilt is a tool that is used to destroy you. We all make mistakes. We all have fallen short. We have all disappointed someone, including ourselves at some point. Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do about it. It’s done. Instead of beating yourself up about it, how about putting that same energy into making sure that it doesn’t happen again and healing anyone who may have been hurt by it?

You can’t let guilt win or consume you. You can’t let it take over your thoughts because if you do, you will start a downward spiral. It’s like this… guilt is the trick that makes you feel that you’re unworthy, and if you feel that you’re unworthy then you will feel that you don’t deserve any good thing to happen to you. And so, as a man thinks so is he. If you think you don’t deserve good things you will never have good things. And when things are falling apart you will feel guilty that they are falling apart. Do you see the cycle? There is no winning here. In order to be free and be lifted you must let go of the guilt or it will keep you bound.

How do you do that? Well, it’s a process, but you start by asking forgiveness of whomever you hurt, ask forgiveness of God, and most of all ask forgiveness of yourself. Although God forgives us most easily, we sometimes can’t forgive ourselves. You can’t get to great things ahead if you’re always looking behind you. It’s like trying to drive your car in that awkward position.”

Light and Love,

A Secret Confession…. not so secret anymore..

31 Mar

Have you ever just felt completely blah?  A complete and total lack of energy or sense of direction?  Panicked, or anxiety filled? STRESSED OUT?  Hopelessness?  A need to curl under something and wait for the world to pass you by?  What about total exhaustion?  You can’t get up in the mornings, and when you do the world spins around you.  Or a complete inability to sleep ? You haven’t the faintest clue as to why you’re feeling this way, and all that’s apparent is this feeling, right here right now.

There’s a lot to blame for this metaphysical nightmare.  We live in such a fast-paced world demanding constant on the go lifestyles.   Long gone are the days of the simple and uncomplicated.  We’re not riding horses or building homesteads anymore, no, we’re commandeering gadgets and machines that at a press of a button will do almost anything we want!  We have this need to constantly be in control, and have the highest expectations of ourselves and of others.  We likely do multiple things at the same time, and regularly say “Yes” to everything, sacrificing what precious little time we should spend with ourselves and with God.  We’re detached from our emotions, from our spirituality, and have a hard time letting go of grudges, guilt and anger.  Oh, and then there’s stress… we don’t seem to identify well with it, but it’s there – EVERYDAY.  We are completely disconnected…..

Listen, however sad but true, we need to start coming to terms with the fact that society is imploding on itself.  This “way of life” is destroying our ability to be interdependently functional as parents, partners, co-workers, leaders…. you get the picture.  We’ve allowed this to happen because we want more, need more, compete more, compare more, and fact is, if we don’t change, we’ll very likely get taken out by some dis-sease or die.

I’ve been fighting with the above symptomatic issues for quite some time now.  Have you?  For me, it’s a combination of severe depression, stress, anxiety, guilt, pain, the list goes on… and I’ve made a choice to no longer allow this to rule my life.  I’ve found relief in the last few weeks; it continues to be a radical and emotional experience… I call it giving it up to Jesus; creator, savior, died-on-the-cross, loves us unconditionally, wants to have a relationship with us and see us prosper and be fruitful, healthy and happy – you know……. that guy….  How absolutely amazing, incredible, eye-opening, soul gripping… his word is like a light unto my life right now…  I’ve felt that in my darkest hour, there has always been an answer in his word, and how could there not be – its supernatural!

Philippians 4, “5Let your gentleness be evident to all. The Lord is near. 6 Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”  What an amazing promise!!!!

If you’re in this fight; hopeless, hurting, in pain, desperate to find peace & contentement, my advice is to give it to God. I have lost nothing in doing so, and yet have gained tremendously.   It’s not some type of overnight quick fix, nothing happens without faith and commitment, but with time healing starts to take place.. and that’s paramount!   I hope this has been an encouragement to you, and has somehow made you feel a little less alone in this great big world!  We all go through darkness, but know that light always prevails.

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